"Doesn't pick my calls": Man laments as uncle who invited him to US ghosts him
This story has significance for readers across Kenya and beyond.
- A Facebook user shared how his uncle sent him a formal US invitation letter in 2018, sparking hope of a better life abroad
- Years later, the uncle stopped picking his calls and cut off all contact, leaving him stranded and confused
- The man took to social media to share his painful experience, and his post quickly caught widespread attention online
A Nigerian man has opened up about one of the most painful betrayals he has experienced, revealing how a close family member dangled the prospect of a life in America before him, then vanished without explanation.
The man, identified as Idongesit Udoewah, shared his story on Facebook, recounting how his uncle formally invited him to the United States back in 2018. The uncle went as far as providing him with an official invitation letter, a document that represented a serious commitment and raised Idongesit's hopes of relocating abroad.
Years of Silence After a Promising Start
My uncle was so impressed by our conversation that he became excited about having such a "smart nephew." In the euphoria of the moment, he promised to invite me to America. And true to his word, he sent an invitation to the US Consulate in Lagos and copied me. Unfortunately, I had already relocated to Abuja, so I begged him that it would be more convenient if he sent the invitation to the US Consulate in Abuja instead. He did, surprisingly. At this point, I was no longer dreaming. I had started making preparations. I paid extra money for express passport renewal. In a few days, the passport was ready. Ah! America was becoming real; my accent started changing immediately when I got my passport," he wrote in part.
What followed, however, was a slow and crushing disappointment. Rather than following through on the invitation, the uncle gradually withdrew from contact. Idongesit says the man stopped picking up his calls entirely and has since made himself unreachable.
"He doesn't pick my calls. From the day I called my uncle to tell him that my passport was ready, something happened. I called. No answer. I called again. No answer. My father called. Still nothing. For the next eight years (till today) this man did not pick my calls or my father's calls. Just pure, unprovoked ghosting. I was depressed, drained and terribly broken. Looking back, I'm actually grateful to God. Because imagine if he had ghosted me after I arrived in America. Imagine landing at the airport with my bags, passport and dreams, looking around for my uncle, only to realise that the man who invited me had suddenly developed the spiritual gift of disappearing," Idongesit wrote in his post, summarising what had become a years-long frustration.
To underscore just how real the original promise had been, he attached the 2018 invitation letter to his post, showing that the offer was not merely a verbal one but a documented commitment his uncle had once been willing to put in writing.
Family Betrayal Sparks Online Conversation
The post resonated with many people online, with a number of social media users sharing their own experiences of relatives abroad who had made similar promises and then disappeared once the excitement faded.
Stories like Idongesit's are not uncommon across Nigeria and much of Africa, where the hope of securing a visa through a family connection can consume years of a person's life. The emotional weight of such a betrayal goes beyond the lost opportunity itself. It is the trust placed in a relative, and the silence that replaces it, that tends to leave the deepest mark.
Idongesit's decision to share the invitation letter publicly was a pointed move, making clear that he had not misunderstood or exaggerated the situation. The paperwork existed. The promise was real. And yet here he was, years later, still unable to get his uncle on the phone.
Below is his post:
Source: TUKO.co.ke
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